Saturday, January 31, 2009

What is going on with our baby?

I'm going to post this first and then I will go back and tell you about the pregnancy.

It all started Thursday afternoon. I had a busy day Thursday, taking Eli to the doctor, running errands, etc. Then that evening I went to the bathroom and I was spotting some so I thought I would not upset Jeff and just keep it to myself and if it happened again or got worse I would tell him. So later on when I went to the bathroom again there was more spotting so I told Jeff. He, of course, was worried. So now I'm spotting, cramping in my lower tummy area, and having really bad back pain. The OB office was already closed so I called the on-call nurse and left her a message. She called me back about 30 minutes later and told me to call the office first thing Friday morning because they may want to do an ultrasound since I was spotting so early.

So I called the office Friday morning and a few minutes later the nurse called me back and I explained what was going on and what the on-call nurse told me the night before. That nurse said that they would not do an ultrasound but they would take a urine sample and check for a UTI or bladder infection. Jeff and I talked and we both agreed that Jeff would stay at home with Eli since he was congested and teething and not feeling good. I mean why should we take Eli out in the cold and wind when he is sick since all they were going to do was a urine sample not a ultrasound.

I get ready and go to the office. I signed in and ask for a sterile cup. When I came out of the restroom the nurse stopped me and told me to just sit there and wait, instead of going back out to the waiting room, because she was checking my sample then. She came back out a few minutes later and took me in a room and got my weight and blood pressure. My blood pressure was a little high (122/90) and she said that she thought I may be a little dehydrated. She then put me in a room to rest and relax for a few minutes to see if my blood pressure would come down. After a little while another came in and rechecked my blood pressure. It had came down some (118/84). The doctor came in a few minutes later and we talked about my history and what I was experiencing that brought me into the office. I explained to her about the spotting, cramping, and back pain. She told me that she wanted an ultrasound done just to make sure there was nothing wrong with the baby or me. So I go to another waiting room and wait and wait and wait until they finally call me back to the room. While I'm waiting I sent Jeff a text explaining what they had said so far and that they were going to do an ultrasound. He was a little upset because he was going to miss the first ultrasound of our miracle baby but I promised him that I would try to get him a picture. She went to my left ovary first and there was a large cyst on it, then she went to the right ovary and it looked good. Then the big moment came...I saw our baby!!! I was so very excited. I saw the heartbeat and its arms and legs. She kept pushing on my belly to get the baby to move around so I could see it more. That was a moment that I can not even begin to describe with words. Everything looked really good with the baby and me, except for the cyst. The cyst was what was causing the problems.

When I got home I showed Jeff the pictures. Eli looked at them like we were crazy and Jeff really enjoyed looking at our baby for the first time. We can not wait to go back February 11 for the next ultrasound and Jeff will be with me then.

Here are a couple of pictures...

Friday, January 30, 2009

The roller coaster ride of Adoption

We filled out the application and sent it back in December 2007. In January 2008, we started all of our classes, training, home studies, and inspections. We received our approval letter the week before Mother's Day 2008. I was so very excited to know that we were "Paper Pregnant" and our child was out there somewhere. On June 27, 2008, our baby boy was coming into this world and we did not even know it. On July 2 Jeff was out doing his part time job, Lawn Care, and I was sitting at home playing on the computer when my cell phone rang. It was our Social Worker and she said that she had a 5 day old baby boy that they wanted to place in our home forever. She ask me if we wanted him and I, of course, said YES!! She ask if we could pick him up the next day. Again, we said YES! Jeff called her back while I was talking to her and she told him that I was on the other line crying so she would talk to him later. Jeff came straight home.

We got ready and went shopping because we had nothing for Eli. When we filled out the application we put that we would take a boy or a girl and up to a 3 year old. We did not know if we would get a boy or a girl or an infant or a toddler. Jeff and I were so very excited that we called everybody.

The plans changed and we were not able to pick Eli up on Wednesday, July 3 but we did get to brink him home forever on Monday, July 7. Our hearts and lives changed forever that day, for the better. Eli has been home with us now for 6 months now and he is growing up way to fast. We are still waiting to finalize the adoption, I will keep you updated as we learn more about court dates or anything.

Next up, my emergency visit to the OB today.

Thursday, January 29, 2009

Some background information

Hi everyone! I'm Ashley, happily married to Jeff, and one proud Mommy to Eli and our miracle baby that we are expecting August 27, 2009. Jeff and I met in 2005 and starting dating December 22, 2005. We got married February 3, 2007 and then we had our big wedding August 18, 2007.

We tried to get pregnant and were unable to so we started going to different doctors to try to find out what was going on. We were told that the only way we would be able to get pregnant would be through Infertility treatments. At the time, we were not ready for that, I had some surgeries and then complications from the surgeries. I saw a write up on the front page of the local newspaper, in September 2007, begging for "Forever Families" for the children in DSS custody so I called Jeff and ask him to think about it and let me know if we could adopt. Without hesitation he told me to call and get more information about it. I called and they sent us an information package with an application. We read over everything and started filling out the application when I started having more complications, so we put the adoption process on hold for a little while. Then in November 2007 there was another article on the front page. So I called Jeff again and ask him if we could continue the adoption process. Again, he said yes! So I called DSS and ask if we could use the same application and they said they we couldn't but they sent us another application.

Coming up next, the roller coaster ride of adoption.